By Katelyn Pyfer
Distinguished Young Woman of Colorado for 2013
I love myself. I’m just going to be straight up and admit it. What I lack in humility I make up for in self-adoration, and I am perfectly okay with that. And despite all opinions to the contrary, I’d like to think that this love for myself is actually a positive, really healthy thing.
So many times in life we’re taught the value of humility. And unfortunately, some people, especially teenage girls, feel that being humble means to degrade yourself or to compare your weaknesses to others’ strengths or to just feel like crap, basically. WRONG! We’re throwing that definition right out the window this instant and we’re focusing on what it means to be confident. Forget humility and start focusing on loving you.
But first, we need to know who we are. Since being in college, I’ve really begun to explore who I am. I feel like I’m starting on this cool, solo adventure, and that the X on the treasure map leads me to the real, true, confident, beautiful version of myself that has been waiting to be discovered. So, I’ve been figuring out what I like and what I don’t like; I’ve been completely honest with how things make me feel; I’ve been sensitive to what my emotional and physical needs are; and I’m super stoked about what I’ve found out. Here’s the main gist of it: I’m an introvert that loves thinking deeply and making connections. I don’t always like to hang out with friends, and I’m perfectly happy to simply say ‘No, I’m just not in the mood’ to things my friends invite me to. I think about boys ALL the time, and I feel really hurt when I think they don’t like me. But I’ve learned that that’s normal, and rejection sucks, and then you move on. I’ve learned that I love watching movies and texting and writing poems. And I’ve also learned that I’m pretty and people look up to me and that I’m happiest when I’m with my family. AND I’M NOT EVEN HALFWAY TO THE ‘X’ YET!!!!! Can you imagine my excitement right now?
So start doing this with you. Be attentive to yourself. Erase things and/or people that have unknowingly made you feel stressed, or unloved, or ugly. Fill your life with things that you’ve come to realize bring you happiness, confidence, and passion. Don’t be afraid of your feelings or what they might suggest. Your subconscious knows who you can be so much better than your conscious does. So trust what you feel! And love what you find!
Love the fact that you get cranky when you’re tired and start getting more sleep. Love the rush you get when you’re the life of the party and start calling more friends to hang out. Love the sense of rejuvenation you get when you’re chilling by yourself and start allotting yourself more alone time. Love the fact you don’t do well in crowds and start setting up more one-on-one hangouts. Love the fact that you’re unique and special and perfectly YOU…and start realizing how awesome that person is.
So, like I said. I love myself. But I had to know who I was first. I challenge and encourage and hope and expect and desire you to meet someone new these next few months – and make that person YOU.
Katelyn Pyfer is a college freshman at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah majoring in Social Sciences Education and minoring in Math Education. Originally from Castle Rock, Colorado, Katelyn was a participant in the Distinguished Young Women program and was selected as the Distinguished Young Woman of Colorado for 2013. Learn more about Katelyn here!