By Whitney Eversole
Distinguished Young Woman of Utah for 2015
Alright ladies, let’s talk.
First of all, I am convinced Utah’s DYW program is the best in the country (though I may be just a smidge biased). State week truly embodies the “transformative experience” that Distinguished Young Women’s mission statement talks about. There are inspirational speakers and workshops, and a large portion of time is dedicated to making sure every young woman leaves having learned something about herself and how to better face the world.
One of these workshops is given by Utah’s Judges Chair, Michelle Paxton, who also works as a marriage counselor. It’s called: “How to Not Marry a Jerk.” In that workshop, she talks about how there are 4 types of guys:
1. Pretzels: These are guys that come around a lot. The kind of guy you would be friends with and hang out with, but you know there isn’t anything there that you’re really looking for. You wouldn’t necessarily seek them out, but it’s nice to have them around.
2. Chocolate-Covered Pretzels: These are the most common type of guy, and the ones typically in your date zone. They seem sweet and charming and handsome, but once you take a bite, you realize that they are no different from the rest on the inside.
3. M&Ms: These guys are everything you’re looking for. They’re smart, funny, driven, and what’s even better: you soon realize they are pure chocolate. No hidden surprises. These are the guys you’ll usually get into more serious relationships with.
4. Mini M&Ms: These little gems only come around once or twice in a lifetime. Not only are they pure and sweet and good, but there is something extra about them that you can’t explain. These are the dream boys, but they’re pretty hard to find.
Through your dating life, you will meet guys of every level of chocolatey-ness, from handsome to charming to smart to whatever else you are attracted to. And while we should not simplify our male counterparts to mere levels of chocolate, this comparison still has some merit.
Now, if you’re reading this blog, you probably have some sort of connection to the Distinguished Young Women program, whether you have participated or not. So that means you have been exposed to the ideas of encouraging scholarship, leadership, and talent. It means you know how to be a leader in your school and community, and you are working to be healthy, ambitious, involved, studious, and responsible. Those are some pretty lofty values and goals you’re working toward! Ladies, it is so SO important that you choose to spend your time with guys that are supportive of your ambitions, and are also working toward their own. The Be Your Best Self program is not just for girls! There are distinguished young men out there that will not only be nice and cute and charming, but that have real substance just like you do, that are striving to be their best. And when you get the two of you together, you will be able to accomplish anything.
Moral of the story? Don’t settle. Don’t waste all of your time with chocolate-covered pretzels that may tell you you’re pretty, but don’t care about what’s inside of you. You are better than that, and deserve someone better than that. There are distinguished young men out there, and they are dying to meet you.
Man, now I’m craving chocolate.
Whitney Eversole is a college freshman at Utah State University in Logan, Utah. Whitney was a participant in the Distinguished Young Women program and was selected as the Distinguished Young Woman of Utah for 2015. Learn more about Whitney here!